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Why So Many Young People Are Having No Sex
The link above is to a study on why young people arent having sex. They partly blame PORN.
My Father, who was born in 1920, was a member of the Playboy Clubs and was a swinger before my parents got married. So there was always lots of books and other material laying around the house in nooks and cranies.
Ive watched plenty of porn, and looked at plenty of sex books and never once did I think, "Oh no more sex for me!" In fact, I wanted it even more. Not only did porn make me want sex more but it taught me who I was, which is a submissive, into some really freaky shit (LOL). And after I figured that out, I became choosy. I didnt want vanilla sex or relationships anymore.
I grew up with Playboy and Penthouse Forum. Magazines with articles and words that people could read to figure themselves out. Now with the internet theres so many people who are trying to make a quick buck off mass produced, heavily edited crap disposable porn. Even amateur porn edits good stuff out. Its okay for a quick lunchtime jerk off in your car, but most is lacking the things that make sex special and magical and fun.
If porn has sex, but no genuine emotion. Then how can people feel? People nowadays are hungry to feel connected and when everything is fake, thats hard. Its why people are hungry for old music. Grace Slick White Rabbit, Woodstock version destroys Taylor Swift.
So, 2 years ago I started accidentally writing a 150+ page Erotic Novel (started it in June 2021- finished it in February 2023) I then accidentally started watching some porn. I hadnt watched porn in years. I will not share which one Im watching (cause its very explicit) but the creator is a famous porn star, who is making his own films now. I have told Him that His films are different. I have never been more aroused watching "porn" then while I watch His offerings, and I think its cause he has a passion and loves what he does. He leaves all the special shit in. It draws you in and makes you feel things deeply. You start caring about the people involved.
But most of all it isnt PERFECT.
Im not even necessarily watching for sexual reasons (the side effects are nice tho' lol), but because there are unintentional story lines that are threaded thru the videos and its almost a reality show, but actually REAL reality. Not scripted. Real emotion elicits real emotion. And its not just me who is feeling that there is something different about this specific "porn", a lot of the other viewers are saying interesting things as well. People in the comments are posting deeper comments than just, "You guys are so hot"...
So, I've been watching for months now, and its high quality content. "Breathlessly" sexual and highly romantic. There are times where I feel exhausted from the emotion of it all.
He has reinvented porn, not by making it even more slick and perfect, but by making it more IMPERFECT. He clearly knows how to make slick studio porn, cause Hes done it for decades, but He chooses to make it the way He is making it now.
In life there is no perfection, and porn shouldnt be either. His porn is raw, imperfect and He leaves all the mistakes and accidents in. Him and the men that come to Him are not perfect. Things happen during filming that studio porn takes out. You hear house noises, The Doorbell rings (Amazon) toys and furniture break, Sometimes one of His favorite guys is not feeling it. Another of His favorites forgot his asthma inhaler. One of His faves has issues I wont get into but Him and the fave are actively trying to find solutions and work them out together. Theres real caring, love and compassion between Him and His faves, and we see that. Sometimes Him and His faves BOTH CRY.
I think the real issue isnt so much about porn exactly, but the unattainable pressure of PERFECTION that is the scourge of society.
If you never see a porn actor struggling to stay hard, cause pornographers cut out any hint of erectile difficulties... Then you will think your boyfriends hard on issues are a DEFECT that you need to break up with him over.
If all you see is submissives in slick studio porn always in the right mood to be Dominated and have hot sex YOU will think YOU are abnormal for sometimes not being in the mood, and if all your budding Dominant boyfriend sees in porn is a perfect submissive always in the mood and horny YOU will BOTH be offended when you cant live up to the Porn Ideal. He wont be forgiving and you will start to hate yourself for being damaged goods....
Both Him and one of His faves are actively working on a physical issue and they talk openly about it on camera. And they BOTH are openly working on solutions. This is so healthy. If this was slick studio porn, theyd have fired the guy and replaced him. Just like people are "firing" their boyfriends for not being perfect. Instead we see two people working thru their issues and still being in each others lives. HEALTHY.
Lastly, even if He is a super kinky BDSM Dominant and porn star, its VERY obvious how much He cares for and loves His submissives. It comes out of every pore in His body...both of them sometimes cry and I think us viewers also cry with them.
Slick studio porn has removed the stuff that made sex special, the tenderness, intimacy, compassion and HUMANITY. The mistakes are human.... And thats what porn going forward should put back in.
Imperfections make people interesting and add depth. What would you rather watch, something that makes you feel multiple emotions and is satisfying? Or 1 dimensional Stepford Wife Porn?
Reject fake porn, fake people, fake tv, and fake music.
Embrace Authenticity
Note: I capitalize the H in He and Him cause even tho my Dominant has been gone for many years, He taught me to be respectful to other Dominants and I still am to this day. :)
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