Serial Killers, True Crime & BDSM
It seems that everytime there is a horrific evil Serial Killer that surfaces, BDSM gets brought up and the Serial Killer's internet search history gets brought up, and people blame everything on Porn, BDSM and Perverts.
No place is this more evident then in the Long Island Serial Killers SubReddit. (LISK)
Quite a few posters just cant get the difference between a man who literally hunts women to torture them and kill them and Real BDSM. I think they truly believe that these SKs, are BDSM Masters who just took things too far....
I think most people have no idea what Real BDSM is.
Which one do they think it is
Most of what average people think they know about BDSM is not true BDSM....
I am going to open up and demystify Real BDSM...
What real Lifestyle BDSM is supposed to be like.
This only applies to the basic, sexual, 24/7/365 submissive female/Dominant Male lifestyle,
NOT
The other 10+ lifestyles under the BDSM umbrella.
First. Everyones BDSM relationships are different, but they all share the same framework,
In the simplest terms,
BDSM is just (somewhat pompous) modern day Renaissance Faire LARPing and Cosplay.
Second: Submissives are usually very honest, sweet, lovely people. No one would ever believe they are in a BDSM relationship or what they fantasize about. In the early 2000s when I was in a BDSM relationship, Id just walk around in Jeans, Tshirts and Bobos, I wasn't wearing leather or corsets in public. Youd never know what I had just done the night before. Most of the filthy dirty stuff comes from the submissives mind.
Both Dominants and submissives are usually born this way.
Dominants usually deeply enjoy sexually controlling women. However, by "CONTROLLING" I mean that they love watching a submissive go from Bright and Bouncy when they first enter a room, to spent, and satisfied and ultimately exhausted. The submissive is the fiddle and the Dominant plays her utterly and completely. He enjoys taking her thru many emotional states. They love to OWN women sexually. They want the sub to be addicted to them.
The submissive grows up being gratified when people tell her what to do. They are rule followers. They always volunteer to be the patient in neighborhood games of Hospital. Some submissives Ive known report that they loved it when boys would tie them up on the playground. They are excited and feel whole when near powerful men and if they encounter a real Dominant in life, they will automatically sense Him and will make moves to offer themselves to Him. This is NOT bullshit. Submissives always collectively talk about it. Its like ESP.
I met my late Dominant in 2003 in a Paltalk voice chat room. As soon as he got on cam and on mic, that was it, I knew he was a Dominant and I offered myself to him.
So, contrary to all the bullshit people try to push in the misogynist media, it is usually all the submissives idea to start the relationship.
She has fantasized all her life about very explicit things being done to her.
So, she either answers His personal ad or if she encounters Him in public, she will make eyes at Him and He will approach her.
When they meet there is always a strange air of politeness and decorum in the air. Even before they even speak, she will sit up straight, cross her legs, Please and Thank You.... But always simmering underneath is that exquisitely dirty filthy mind of the submissive. Its almost as if she is trying to hold it together tightly, because she knows that as soon as he says certain phrases and words to her she will ask him how close he parked, cause she just wants to be alone with him, so she can be herself.
Submissives get freed by the Dominant. They can fully be themselves with Him. And He is a safe place for her, because their relationship is about TRUST, INTIMACY AND DEEP CONNECTION.
He will wait for a few days while they get to know each other before sex. He wants to wait, he has full control of his faculties and knows its fun to draw things out. All the while, things he is saying and asking her, is adding to that simmer.
They get to know each other like most other couples. The submissive needs to get to know the Dominant very well because of what they will be doing together. Me and my Dominant talked for a year before meeting. She needs to trust him very very well. They cannot lie to each other.
They both tell each other what they want out of this relationship, what they will and wont do sexually, and what they like. (negotiations) However, the Dominant will push her limits (but she likes that)
Once they get to know each other, they set up a playdate, and either right at the end of the meeting and getting to know each other phase, or right at the start of the playdate the Dominant makes requests of the submissive.
Usually He requests her to shave her pussy or never to touch herself unless He gives her permission. (when she shaves, she can feel it all day, its new and it reminds her that she is a submissive, this gets her mind on Sex and HIM, shes always thinking of HIM and sex with him- therefore shes always turned on WHICH IS THE WHOLE POINT.)
When they are finally alone, He makes her strip and gives her Rules, such as:
You are never allowed to say no
You are to address me as Sir or Master etc
You are to be polite at all times
etc (More thinking of Him and Of Sex With Him.)
She is required to tell him everything. Including all her fantasies and whether she finds other men attractive. This builds deep intimacy and emotional investment. It also helps Him plan Scenes with her. BDSM is about scenes, not so much sex, but scenes, like acts of a play. It also helps him find out what she is fantasizing about.
Shes now completely naked physically and emotionally. And she is FREE.
They have sexual contact. Sexual contact that He has probably planned and set a beautiful emotional scene for.
From here on out, everyday, her mind is on him, him touching her, him having sex with her, and everything he has required her to do is for sex with him.
And its all for ONE THING. To ensure the submissive is always turned on, and always ready for sex with HIM.
Their entire relationship is Him thinking up shit to get her to do and to do to her.
And Her constantly thinking of him and being with him and keeping herself shaved for him and being polite ETC ETC ETC. They become super intertwined and she is so into pleasing him WHILE HE is giving her fantastic sex and fulfilling her fantasies.
The submissive knows and consents to this brainwashing and programming.
Dominants usually set a daily or weekly quota of orgasms she must have for Him.
She will be trained to do various things.
Her entire being is devoted to Him, she keeps herself shaved and dressed for Him and follows all the rules and He "flirts" all day with her. She is so emotionally connected to Him.
They are living a life of a Harlequin Romance Novel Pic
If something were to happen to either one of them, theyd be devastated. The emotional connection is very deep. My Dominant died in 2006, I lost it.
The relationship is 50/50, and Symbiotic. fuckER/fuckEE, Dom/sub. They both need each other.
Most Lifestyle 24/7/365 submissives go into their caskets after dying of old age, wearing their Collars and rings from their Dominants, devoted to the grave.
NOW,
How do I explain the other part correctly, when most submissives always say that we aren't able to explain why we enjoy it?
I am a person who thinks about human behavior and examines myself deeply, So Ive never been able to figure out why being made to suffer, by a Dominant man turns me on the way it does.
Perhaps its a sort of Adult Cuteness Aggression! But instead of cuteness, its sexual pleasure or passion aggression. Like the passion and pleasure is so MUCH in one of these relationships you must suffer for it...
Look, BDSM is very SILLY, and Weird and Crazy.
I admit it.
The whole lot of us are nuts! LOL
The shit we dream up to do with each other is hilarious.
But we are all GOOD Loving, kind, and VERY VERY Polite, conscientious people.
Submissives want to be punished, we want to be held accountable,
BUT
Only by a man who we have negotiated with, trust fully and consent to...
Neither one of us wants to hurt the other partner, we just want to live in this silly lifestyle and get off on each other and be in our little Chivalrous, Renaissance Faire, Medieval Tymes, sexual cosplay world.
However, what BDSM is not, is evil.
Dominants are not in anyway shape or form truly sadists.
They never want to truly hurt or damage anyone. In real BDSM, a whipping or a paddling are used to bring out a very exposed vulnerable emotional state, almost a PURITY in the submissive. Its extraordinarily INTIMATE.
BDSM Doms/subs LOVE each other. They care deeply about each other.
Doms spend way too much time in the programming phase to want any harm to come to their submissives. BDSM is a LOT of work. A LOT!
Intimacy, love, and caring is the opposite of a Serial Killer.
Serial Killers dont love or care about anyone, and they dont care about fulfilling their victims fantasies or making them cum.
They dont even love or care about themselves.
They just want to KILL.
And they hurt the BDSM community by co-opting our community, our literature, movies etc to try to act like they are one of us and hide behind us.
Do you recall what I said above?
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They are excited and feel whole when near powerful men and if they encounter a real Dominant in life, they will automatically sense Him and will make moves to offer themselves to Him. This is NOT bullshit. Submissives always collectively talk about it. Its like ESP.
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There is not ONE Serial Killer that I felt like that about, Instead of the Arousal and Longing and the feeling of safety and freedom I feel when I encounter True BDSM Dominants, I feel unsafe and scared when I see Serial Killers pictures or Video.
Once again,
BDSM is the OPPOSITE of Serial Killing.
BDSM Dominants WANT happy, addicted, satisfied, horny submissives
BDSM is all about TRUST, INTIMACY AND DEEP CONNECTION
Serial Killers dont care about their victims!
There is no trust in Serial Killing
There is no intimacy in Serial Killing
No connection in Serial Killing.
No relationship in Serial Killing.
No pre relationship negotiations in Serial Killing.
No consent in Serial Killing.
No LOVE in Serial Killing.
No Caring in Serial Killing.
They just want them dead.
Its all HATE, Jealousy and Contempt
Serial Killers arent into BDSM, they are into KILLING.
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